The Greying of Generation X
I just happened to spot it as I was taking money out of the ATM at Duane Reade. Crushed at the very bottom of the newspaper rack was the latest edition of the New York Observer - a newspaper I hardly read (although it isn’t a bad paper, to be honest). “Bring Back The Generation Gap!” the headline read, and it was accompanied by an illustration of a youthful looking, conservatively dressed kid pushing his greying, sneaker and t-shirt wearing dad in a baby stroller. I immediately scooped it up, being that this particular subject has been of great interest of me as of late. I always wondered what happened to “Generation X”.
Back in the early 1990s, there was a sudden interest in people my age and this interest was spawned by sociologists and cultural theorists all over the country. Suddenly the then “twentysomething” generation was getting a lot of press - most of it, I suspect, coincided with the abrupt change in the pop cultural landscape (Nirvana, Grunge, etc) and the election of a new President (Clinton) which seemed to signal, in some way, the end of the Reagan Era and the true beginning of the post-Cold War world. There were a flood of articles, books - and eventually films - that explored the mentality of this generation born in the 1960s and 1970s suddenly “coming of age” at about this time period. “Generation X” it was dubbed, contrasting it with the rapidly aging “Baby Boomers” (who were just about hitting 50 at this time). I found it all fascinating, personally, especially since I was in my early to mid twenties at the time myself.
Then without warning, all the interest, studies, articles, opinion pieces, books, films, etc vanished without a trace. Poof! - like the disappearance of a genie, stuffed back into its bottle. Kurt Cobain was dead, the music got generic and co-opted by the corporate machine (as did the films, books, etc), and there were new faces popping up on the cultural landscape - a fresh faced, younger and seemingly more “happier” youth. The “Millennial Generation” (or what came to be known as “Generation Y”) burst on the scene along with their new sensibility. The nihilistic, dark, angry rebellion was suddenly replaced by bouncy tunes, “bling” and the insatiable desire to become a “celebrity”. It was around this time that I had already turned and zoomed past 30 years old and just as suddenly, I started not to “get” what all the fuss was about. And that’s a good thing. It’s supposed to be that way.
But that didn’t stop many of my peers (and by “peers” I mean my age group, not my personal friends) for still clinging to the pop cultural thread that was rapidly unraveling in their aging hangs. Despite many getting married, getting settled in their careers, having children - the natural progression of things - they just couldn’t let go; and it was painful to watch these now thirtysomethings desperately trying to remain “relevant” as this new barrage of youth swept us all aside and replaced all our “angst” with their happy, celebrity worshipping, party time, pop cultural esthetic. In what seemed like a blink of an eye, everything changed and the faces unfamiliar. I moved on and pretty much ignored all this stuff. Didn’t appeal to me in the least. Didn’t get it. I found myself moving into another orbit altogether.
In 2006, I turned 40. Not a painful transition for me at all. Age is merely a number, as the cliche rightly points out. I no longer cared about remaining “relevant” (whatever that’s supposed to mean) and I began to explore different avenues: different forms of music, art, literature and cared less and less about the new pop cultural dynamic. But I didn’t feel the least bit “isolated” or even “alienated” by this new generation coming up behind me. I honestly felt more relief than anything else and thanked the Gods every day that I wasn’t born later than I was - something I’m sure every generation feels as they look upon their juniors. Now it’s 2013 and I’m creeping towards 50 (will be 47 this summer) and I can say, without embarrassment, that I have absolutely no clue as to what’s “hip” anymore nor do I even care. I don’t bat an eye when I admit that I have no idea what band is currently popular, or who the actor is that appears on the TV talk shows, or what trends are currently “the big thing.” And - again - that’s the way it’s supposed to be. Time to move on. Grow old gracefully.
But the article seemed to articulate this sense of panic, which I found amusing. It spoke of us greying Gen Xers as an age group that refuses to let go, becoming our version of the aging hippies we used to mock when we were in our twenties. There was even a book written not too long ago about the “Alternadad” - that creature of the semi-suburban “hip neighborhoods” who still want to show the world how “with it” they still are, wrapping their toddlers in Ramones and Black Flag t-shirts (nothing wrong with that per se - it can be quite funny, actually if you don’t take it too seriously) but underneath all this so-called pressure to remain “relevant” belies a distinct fear of “getting old”.
And while the article tended to focus more on the pop cultural landscape, that isn’t really the problem here. Every generation embraces the music, art, films, books, of their youth. It’s what they grew up with and it’s natural. The problem - at least the way I see it - is more behavioral. Not only have many of my peers refused to get off the damn train already and move on pop culturally, but psychologically; and there’s nothing more disgusting to me than watching a near 50 year old who still stands by looking down their noses at their fellow generational cohorts with the same smug, hipper-than-thou attitudes they had when they were teenagers and their twenties. Really? Does any of this shit matter anymore? When is enough enough? The article tends not to get into that and that in and of itself is a curious thing to me.
Face it, my fellow Gen Xers. We’re getting old - and there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s okay to maintain an affection for the things of your youth and Lord knows, I still do, especially the music of my youth. But with the recent string of movies (mainly of the Apatow variety) which explore the “existential angst” of Generation X growing into middle age, the army of those grey-haired “alterna-dudes” still trying to remain “culturally relevant”, and the “hipper-than-thou” crowd who are starting to contemplate their aging prostates, I say it’s high time to let the kids care about all the rest of that bullshit and move the fuck on, already. No one cares anymore, nor should they. I always felt that our generation does have something unique to offer, something different to say to the world today, especially when one considers how many of us grew up. We could offer something other than showing how “hip” we still think we are. What the hell are we waiting for?
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